saw this on shi min's blog.

"how often do we lose ourselves trying to fit in? at some point of our lives, we must have changed who we were to fit in. i mean, the whole thing about education and stuff, it's teaching us to fit into society. which brings us to the question- is retaining who you really are more important, or is social cohesion more important? are they mutually exclusive?"are they?

i don think so.

like the recent gp essay mrs tan went thru in class " has modern living made us lonelier?" this meant that, in the past, we humans are already lonely. but is it worse now? i dunno.

ask yourself, how many real, true friends do you have? a handful? one easy way is to just scroll down your msn list when u are down. how many of them are people u are willing and feel its ok to share with?

suddenly, this very quote from Jodi Picoult's nineteen minutes, well actually not a quote, but part of the character's diary flashed across my mind. it goes like this:

"when u don fit in, u become a superhuman. you can feel everyone's eyes on you, suck like velcro. you can hear a whisper about you from a mile away. you can disappear, even when it looks like you are standing right there. you can scream, and nobody hears a sound. you become the mutant who fell into a vat of acid, the joker who cant remove his mask, the bionic man who's missing all his limbs and none of his heart. you are the thing that used to be normal, but that was so long ago..."

so, should we change to conform to society?

or should be stay like this, and be who we are?

can we really live a life without friends?

i guess all these inadequacies in life, actually makes our life more colourful. seriously, if everything turns out to be exactly as we wanted or fantasize about, den i think it wont be that wonderful anymore. after all, what makes our desires desirable is the fact that they are unattainable in the short run